UNTIL WE MEET AGAIN

Although we have returned from our mission, I would like to share a few things from our last week in South Africa.   We were so "swamped", I did not take time to blog.   It was such a bitter/sweet week.  We were anxious to get home to to our wonderful family and 2 new grand babies!  Yet, these people had become our "African family" and were so dear to us.  In addition to being so busy, I could not face trying to express our feelings about our experiences in Africa in writing.

(Because this will be long, I will blog ONE more time at the end of the week talking about our 11 days of sightseeing in Africa after our mission was over. ) 

"All Good Things Must Come To An End"

As I reflect on the last 18 months, I do not think this saying is true.   Many things will last forever---our feelings for Africa, our testimony of Jesus Christ, our love for the people, our appreciation for the gospel of Jesus Christ and how it helps ALL PEOPLE in ALL CIRCUMSTANCES.

We do not feel our mission was a sacrifice.  We were blessed beyond measure .  We will never be able to thank the Lord enough for allowing us to serve him in South Africa.

Miss or Not Miss

*We will miss $6.00 car washes which include hand washing on the exterior of the car.  Trunk cleaned, tires scoured, interior vacuuming, carpets scrubbed, dash board polished, windows cleaned on the inside and outside.    This takes a team of young men about 1 hour or more!  Quite a Deal.

*We have not pumped any gas for 18 months! When you pull into a gas station the attendant washes your windshield, checks your fluids and pumps your gas---for a 50 cent tip---even if it is 105 degrees outside.   

*Breathtaking experiences with animals will be missed.  

*Opportunities to serve the Zulu people will be missed.

*We will miss wearing our name tags.   What a privledge it was to wear the name of Jesus Christ on our chest every single day.  Our name tags opened so many doors for us!  Taking off our name tags was one of the hardest things we did.

*We will NOT miss driving in South Africa.   Each time we climbed inside the car, it was stressful.  Driving on the left hand side was challenging at first, but eventually became second nature to Larry.   Crazy drivers never got easier.   The traffic rules are just suggestions in South Africa.   We never saw a traffic policeman stop anyone for any reason.   Having cars pass on your right side and your left side at the same time on a 2 lane road was unsettling.  People randomly slamming on their brakes and completely stopping, taxis and buses stopping to unload passengers without notice in the middle of an intersection, cars and trucks driving with no lights at night, etc.  

Interestingly, we have been home since July 9th, and already the thoughts and emotions have begun to fade as we step back into our life in the USA.   I will not be able to convey fully, the daily goodbyes and celebrations that continued in our behalf.    Because I did not write sooner, the thoughtful acts have become blurred.    But I will give a brief recap of what I remember.

Countdown to Departure

We had not scheduled anything the last week of our mission so we could clean, sort, cancel utilities and pack, etc.  We were "patting ourselves on the back" for allowing time to close up our house.   Well, we DEFINITELY congratulated ourselves too soon!!

Although these appointments during the last week might seem mundane and maybe just "busyness", looking back we know we were guided by the hand of the Lord.   

During the week,  we felt impressions from the Lord during each visit.   We could feel the Lord's love for each individual and felt the Lord sending a unique message to each one.   I typed those simple messages in italics.  

Monday, we drove to Enseleni to have our last Family Home Evening with the Alvana family.   I hurried and made some "treats" for us to eat and packed up any food from our frig that we would not be able too use.    The Alvanas were the first family to welcome us and we have spent so many hot evenings together under their mango tree.   After our lesson, they served us dinner and then we taught them a new game called, "Seven Up" (but not the game from school where you put your hands down on the desk).   We laughed so hard.   Fo the last 2 hours, "we walked down memory lane" recalling so many events from the past 18 months.   When we left at 10:30 pm (they used to go to bed early until we started to visit them), we were shocked at how late it was.  During the evening, we took the opportunity to challenge Mesllissah and Shaga (their teenage children) to continue to do well in school.  We discussed the importance of college and how they might achieve that goal.   They listened and they began planning.   Education is a vital key to their future which we discuss often, but tonight they were eager and receptive.

The orange crate in the middle serves as the table for everything---playing games (rolling the dice, laying down UNO cards,etc.), serving drinks (they set a large tray with all of the glasses), serving dessert, holding the flashlights on dark nights and much more.  Under this mango tree is where everything is done!!!

Tuesday, Praise and Nondumiso asked us to drive up to Empangeni and tell them goodbye. When we arrived, they announced they were taking us to dinner.   Praise does not have ANY money so we insisted that we would rather "just visit".    However, they were determined to treat us to dinner.   We found a cafe and visited for 3 1/2 hours.   Praise is about 21 and Nodumiso is about 26 years old.   They presented me with a beautiful beaded Zulu necklace and shared their love for us!   

I shared with them more ways to work with the young women in the Richards Bay District.  (I know it was crazy to be training until the last possible minute!)   We both felt impressed to share some thoughts with them.   Larry counseled them about "waiting for the right young man to marry".   So many of the young women have such low standards for a marriage partner. Women receive so little respect.  We expressed our admiration for them.   What choice women they are....we pray for the Lord to send them a righteous man to marry.  

Wednesday we attended our last District Training Meeting taught by the missionaries from 11-1:00.   We will miss their spiritual trainings that they prepare for all of the elders (and us) each week.   It is humbling to be taught by these 19-20 year old young men about developing the attributes of Jesus Christ, understanding the teachings of our Savior, serving others and sharing the gospel.   After the training, we bought pizza and served lunch for the last time.   

Richards Bay elders (with stuffed animal they found in the building).

At 5:00 we drove to Ngwelesane to visit Samkelo Moloi and his grandfather.   They are both struggling and we shared our love and encouragement. We read scriptures together and there was a wonderful feeling.
 At 7:00 pm we drove to President and Sister Gezane's home for dinner.   Again, we were given beautiful Zulu jewelry.  We shared a very simple assignment with them and they readily accepted.   When we feel into bed, it was very late......and we had not done any packing or cleaning so far.    

Gezane Family

Thursday, we went to workout for the last time. I took a Book of Mormon to each of the ladies I have become friends with.   Next, we hurried to get haircuts and then went grocery shopping.   How can I be shopping for food when we are leaving in 2 days?!   I guess because we needed something to eat!   At noon, we took Louise, our landlady, to lunch at her favorite place.   We spent a few hours so she could show us some of her favorite places in the area.  She was so happy to have someone to listen to her talk about her husband and the places they went before he passed away.     We have developed a very close relationship with Louise, and we hate to leave her alone.....there will not be another senior couple to take our place until September or October.

Louise Nels, our landlady and passionate Afrikaner .

At 3:50 we were on the road to Enseleni for our final goodbyes.   We had printed out pictures we had taken at baptisms, and put them in frames to give to give to several youth.   We delivered the photos along with candy bars (a must!).  Next we stopped at President Chiliza's home to say goodbye to the 12 children/grandchildren that live with him.  We asked all the grandchildren to sing hymns for us.   They loved it.   Then we made our final goodbye to the precious Alvana family.  So hard!   Sister Alvana called us so many times until our plane finally left South Africa---that is a big sacrifice, because people are very frugal with their "air time" (cell phone minutes).  

Friday at 10:00, we arrived at Freddy and Asha's home for my cooking lesson.   We had eaten Biryani (how do you spell it??) so many times at their house.   I asked Asha to teach me cook an Indian dish.   She was thrilled to spend the morning showing me how to cook this Indian dish (with many spices I have never heard of). She could hardly wait to tell her friends she gave an American cooking lessons.  Inspite of my lesson, I don't think I will ever be a fabulous Indian cook!  This couple has treated us like family members.   Asha is not a member of our church, but we are dear friends.     These farewells are each heart breaking.

Learning to make an Indian dish from Asha.

At 2:00 we headed for the mall to buy the missionaries a vacuum cleaner.    They have no carpet, but felt they could clean their apartment better.  At 3:00 we arrived at President duPlooy's home.    We wanted to share our concerns and dreams for the members of the Richards Bay district with him.   He did want to know our ideas, but was seriously disappointed that I had not brought any brownies or cake...big mistake.   It was on my list but we ran out of time.

We realized we needed to cancel our phone and internet service, and hurried back to the mall.    We were informed we had to give them 30 days notice or they would not cancel it. We asked if they could cancel by "flipping a switch" at the office.   They said, "Yes."   But they needed 30 days to put us in the schedule!

TO-DO LIST OR "PEOPLE"

Saturday morning we awoke in a panic---packing not started, cleaning and sorting was still incomplete.  However, I felt like the Lord had guided us all week.  We realized that we had spent all our time with people---not completing "tasks".  HOWEVER, Larry reminded me that we would be up most of the night because of our choices.   We began working in a frenzy.    In the afternoon, I calmly asked if we had time to go and buy me a Zulu skirt.   It is something I had planned to do for months, but had never gotten around to it.   Surprisingly (considering the work we still needed to do) he said, "Let's go."  

ANOTHER TENDER MERCY

We drove to a Zulu market that we had never been to before.   We found a stall with the skirts and purchased on.   The area was packed with customers/vendors but I thought I heard my name being called.   I turned to look and saw Nobuthle running towards us.  She gave us the biggest embrace and greeting.   She was a member of our congregation, but moved suddenly and we had no idea where she went.    She told us she was married and living in another area and was lonely.   We met her husband and invited them both to come to church.  Her husband had not wanted her to attend any church, and husbands have complete control over such things here.   We explained to him why she wanted to come to church and the blessings it would bring to their marriage.   We stood in the market and visited for quite awhile.   

As we left, I knew that the Lord loved Nobuthle and guided us to go to the market at exactly that time so we could meet her and show her love and attention.     She told us that they just "happened" to walk this way to the taxi.  This experience,  "MADE MY DAY".

We hurried back to work and at 9 pm, I began baking brownies.   I was determined to deliver them to President duPlooy before we left (which I did the next morning).  Larry felt  I was crazy, but he continued to pack as I baked.

Sunday morning, we picked up Freddy and drove to church in Richards Bay Branch.   After our meetings, we drove home, put our suitcases in the car, and tearfully drove off for the last time.    

About 4 p.m. we arrived at the Mission Home.   That evening, President and Sister Zachrison honored us and 5 other missionaries who were going home the next day.   We had a yummy dinner and a testimony meeting.  There was so much laughter and tears.   The powerful testimonies of these young elders were amazing.  These young men were returning to Uganda, Johannesburg and the United States.  

Our hearts are filled with gratitude for the last 18 months.  Where did the time go???   In a week I will post the pictures of our 11 day trip after our mission was completed.

Love,
Elder and Sister Todd
Mom and Dad
Larry and Sandy

OUR CUP RUNNETH....... 

"Our cup runneth over" is the only way to explain our feelings.    Some days my heart is bursting with joy and gratitude.  Joy is different than happiness and we have experienced both in South Africa.   The experiences we are having, would never happen in any other place, than on a mission.   We wake up every day grateful for another day to share our love of our Savior Jesus Christ and his mission.  Sharing the "Plan of Salvation" with the people of South Africa is like eating a brownie sundae with extra ice cream and hot fudge.   We have been able to do this day in and day out!   It has been a fabulous experience and we will be eternally grateful.

OVERWHELMED
Because I have not posted anything for 3 weeks, I feel overwhelmed as I try to decide where to begin.   I think I might begin at the end, instead of the beginning.  .   Every night we are working late, each day is packed full as we try to share our love of the Gospel of Jesus Christ with everyone possible.  I have lists on the desk, the kitchen table, my nightstand and on our calendar, noting  the special people that we need to visit before leaving.  

UNTIL WE MEET AGAIN

Esakhewini Branch invited us to a party in our honor on Friday night.   When we were 5 minutes away from the church, my phone rang and Namhla asked how far away we were.   I told her we were almost there.   She replied, "Well, don't hurry.   We are still fetching the key to get into the church!"   We almost died laughing.   It was such a fitting African farewell to arrive and find the building locked and no way to get in!   We did stop to visit a man who is not attending church but he was not home, so we headed over to the party to help them get ready.  

After the party, we drove away  humbled and grateful for these wonderful people.  They might not start on time, but the love they showed us surpassed anything we could imagine!  On the drive home, both of us were silent as we reflected on the evening.  

Four speakers paid tribute to us with such tender thoughts.  Next,  we were asked to speak but we could hardly say a thing after their generous remarks.   We sang hymns followed by a full dinner complete with a beautiful cake.   Dessert is not usually part of their dinners, but this was a special gift to us.   Last came the gifts.   Oh, the generosity and heartfelt appreciation they showered us with!.  Afterwards they still had a long walk home in the dark.   Most events here end while there is still time to get home before dark, but they stayed and stayed.   How could we be so blessed?

Notice my Zulu hat and necklace--gifts from these wonderful people along with much more!     You can't see the Zulu vest very well that they gave Elder Todd.

Our wonderful friends from Esikhaweni.

We love this quote from Jeffery R. Holland that they printed on the program for the evening:

Keep loving.  Keep trying.   Keep trusting.

Keep growing.

Heaven is cheering you on today, tomorrow, and forever. 

 

Early the next morning, we headed to Ngwelesane.   We knew something was up, but we were not sure what.  We picked up Praise and her mother and they directed us to President Zulu's home.   We found a dozen people already there, but people continued to arrive for the next hour and half.  Praise took me into the bedroom and dressed me in an African dress, jewelry and headdress!   Then she gave Elder Todd his shirt and bracelet.  She instructed us what to say (Zulu greeting) as we entered the room with the guests, and how we should act.   Elder Todd and I went "all out" and got into the Zulu spirit and whooped and chanted!   So fun.   They loved it.  We ate lunch and shared testimonies.   

Praise is turning 21 years old, just returned from a mission to Ghana, and organized the entire party herself!   She said to us, "I learned how to serve others and show thanks on my mission, and I wanted to do that for you."   Again, we were humbled by their love. 

Our Zulu entrance into the party!

My hat and dress, and Elder Todd's shirt are gifts from our friends in Ngwelesane.  The hat is called Inhloko, the dress is Isishweshwe and the necklace is umgexo.

Surrounded by friends!

Sunday the parties continued at the Enselini Branch, but this time we were the hosts.     We brought cones and ice cream for everyone,   We had 75 cones and so much ice cream!!!   They would eat the ice cream and half of the cone and bring the half eaten cone for an ice cream refill.  Some came back for 3-4 refills.      Elder Todd did all the scooping and they loved him!   

We both spoke in Sacrament meeting and I taught my last youth lesson.   These youth mean so much to us.   We pray they will remember and act upon the things they have been taught and know to be true.  

SEE YOU IN THE TEMPLE

Saturday, June 4th, we held our last District Young Women Activity.   The girls, ages 12-19, came from all 5 townships for a day of inspiration, role playing, uplifting videos and lunch.   We asked 2 of the girls to speak and share their thoughts on "Why it is important to keep yourself pure." and ""How can I prepare to attend the temple."  These young women spoke from their hearts with complete honesty and no "polish".  It was a blessing to be able to hear them.   Because I knew I would be busy with the program, I explained what I had planned for lunch and asked 2 African women in their early twenties, to set it up and have everything ready.  I couldn't believe my eyes....it was better than I would have done.   It is beginning to feel like they don't need us anymore....bitter and sweet.  

Lunch time!

They are "supposed" to be working in small groups to come up with solutions to a problem.  I tried to snap a picture, but if an African sees a camera, they immediately stop what they are doing and "pose." 

We gave each young women a beautiful mirror with the words:  See Yourself in the Temple and a picture of the future Durban South Africa temple.  We hope they each time they look in the mirror, they will keep themselves worthy to go to the temple.   They were so thrilled with this gift.

Some of our young women with their mirrors. 

TIME FOR A TUNEUP

It was time for our Toyota's regular 45,000 Kilometer service.   Elder Todd has "learned the system" for auto appointments and called 2 weeks ahead to make an appointment.   An appointment means:   He left at 5:45 a.m. and drove 40 minutes to the dealership.  When he arrived he was number 4 in line.   He sat at the dealership and waited until they finished with the car at 1:30 and he was home at 2:20 p.m!  An appointment means you are allowed to come and wait.   Without an appointment, you are not able to get in the lineup.   Luckily we did not have anything major or it takes days and days.  Fortunately, Elder Todd is willing to do this alone!    I was able to stay home and work on other things.  

SLEEPING POLICEMEN

Rarely have we seen a traffic policeman in South Africa.  There are 2 kinds of police:   traffic and crime.   Each is specialized and only functions in their own area.  So a crime policeman cannot stop anyone for traffic violations no matter how flagrant or dangerous.      However, the speed is controlled by speed bumps or what they call Sleeping Policemen.   These bumps come in 3 sizes and all are effective.   But the largest bumps  force even the most aggressive drive to almost come to a complete stop.   On major roads these bumps are so close together and keep you crawling at a slow speed.   These are a challenge for Elder Todd because on major roads, a driver must continually come to these stops.   Cars creep along for long stretches.  One road had many deaths per year until they put these speed bumps the entire length of the road.  

ENVIRONMENTALIST

Dung beetles play an important role in removing poop that is everywhere in the game parks.   When you have hundreds of enormous animals, they leave a mess behind.   These beetles are protected and our safari driver spied one in the road and went out of his way to avoid hurting it.   They carry dung larger than themselves, great distances and bury it!

Vehicles strictly obey this sign no matter how inconvenient.

Look at that chunk of dung the beetle is carrying. 

CAN YOU BELIEVE IT?

Two hours away is an amazing place that allows elephant interaction.   When I learned of it, I knew I needed to go   Elder Todd wasn't quite sold on it, but agreed to go.   Afterwards, we both agreed it was an incredible experience.   It is hard to comprehend how large and powerful these animals are.   There were 3 elephants and we were able to spend about 10 minutes with each one.   Our favorite was Rambo.

This was even more fun than it looks.   We were able to feel the heartbeat, reach into his mouth and feel the huge tongue and feed the elephant.   The power of their suction pulled on the sleeve of my shirt and I had to push my sleeves up.

SWAZILAND

We had an amazing opportunity to go to Swaziland.   It is a small country that borders South Africa.  It is only a 2 1/2 hour drive to the border crossing.  We were able to visit Ruth Berg Newman, her husband Rob and their 5 children.  Swazi people speak a language similar to Zulu and have many things in common.   Swazi people are very artistic and have used these skills to develop thriving businesses.   We were able to visit a glass factory and see beautiful glassware being made, and to watch candles being carved by hand in another city.  Ruth works at the American Embassy and is involved in women's issues in Swaziland.   She introduced us to businesses that sell handmade jewelry.   The jewelry is all made by local women and all of the profits go directly to them. Their pictures are posted on the wall.   It was interesting to visit these businesses and see the variety of crafts.

Traditional Swazi dancing

This traditional home has 3 skulls over the door indicating this family had slaughtered 3 cows that year. 

Typical scene as we drove along the road in Swaziland.

A wrong turn that turns out right......

We had planned to go to a nature reserve with Rob, but we took the wrong entrance.   It ended up to be a "good" mistake.   We visited the oldest mine in the world (according to them.)  .It has not been operating for years.   As we toured the museum we were asked to sign the visitors log and discovered only 5 people had been there in the last month!   Obviously, not a hot tourist attraction.   We hiked to the top of a lookout and to see the previous opening to the mine.  During this time we became friends with the guide and began talking about the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints.   In a nutshell, we arranged for the missionaries to visit him.  He specifically wants to read the Book of Mormon!  It is so WONDERFUL TO BE ABLE TO SHARE THE GOSPEL! We know this did not happen by chance.  

SO LONG TAYLORS

Another senior couple, the Taylors, stay with us once a month because their mission requires traveling to different areas for seminary and institute training.   They came the first weekend of the June, and we baked carrot cakes for a training they were putting on and stayed up way into the night sharing thoughts.   The next day, Elder Taylor and Elder Todd had work to do, so Sister Taylor and I went walking on the beach.  Elder Todd does not enjoy walking on the beach so he was thrilled that I had someone to walk with.   They left 3 days later for the United States.    It was sad to say goodbye. 

Our adventure is nearing an end.   Actually, Monday, our mission ends.   Then we will travel for 11 days before returning home.   I have only posted a few of our activities because of frustrating problems with the internet and our computer.   But we hope you feel how special the Zulu people are.   It will be very hard to say goodbye.    Luckily, we have the most wonderful family waiting for us at home!!!!    Can't wait to see them.  

Love,

Elder and Sister Todd

 

 

 

Come Unto Christ

COME UNTO CHRIST

Last Sunday we were able to see 2 people enter the waters of baptism, Simphiwe and Nondumiso.   They have been receiving the missionary discussions and seriously studying for 3 months.   Simphiwe attends church services, seminary class (for teens) and institute class (for 19 years and older) every week.   She has an incredible desire to learn about the Savior and His gospel, so she attends every single class where she can learn--no matter what age group it is geared for.    Her younger sister has also studied and prepared.  In the New Testament, the Savior commands us to become like little children.   When you listen to these 10 and 21 year old girls, it is easy to see what the Savior is asking us to do.   They have willing hearts and open ears.   They humble themselves, study, sincerely pray, seek for understanding and obey the commandments..   Their quest for truth is wonderful.

 MISSION COUPLES

It takes so much work to keep a mission going.   In our Mission Office in Durban, we have 2 couples that do everything from answering the phone, to ordering our Bibles and Books of Mormon, paying medical bills and a host of other bills, recording baptisms, arranging for medical treatment for serious cases that need specialized care, keeping up to date on regulations for missionary visas in South Africa, AND keeping 70 cars running and the missionaries safe.   Elder Sorensen is in charge of the cars and answers his phone 24/7.  There are sometimes 2 accidents in one weekend and he usually has 15% of the cars in the repair shop on any given day.  Driving in South Africa is beyond description.   

Elder and Sister Nielsen (on the left) are leaving to go home today.   They are being replaced by Elder and Sister Wood (on the far right).  The Woods happen to be related to my brother-in-law, Greg.   In the middle, are Elder and Sister Sorensen.  

LOBOLA, BRIDE PRICE

Lobola, is an honored tradition in South Africa.   Even in 2016, this is practiced by most people.   When a couple desires to get married, the future bridegroom must pay the girl's family 11 cows.   The only change in the tradition, has been to allow a man to pay the equivalent of the 11 cows in cash.   Their are many negative consequences arising from Lobola.   Very few men can pay this price, so they live together without marriage and try to save the money to be married.   However, when they have children, the Bride Price goes up for each child born to the couple.   Soon the price is impossible and many men leave and find another woman.  This practice contributes to (but is not totally responsible for) all the families with no father.  

Nguni cattle, are used for the Lobola payment.   There are dozen and dozens of different types of Nguni cattle.   There is actually a Registry that catalogs each type, the physical characteristics and their Zulu name. They are a hybrid of Indian and European cattle. They are white, brown, golden yellow, black, multicolored,

I apologize for the picture.   I took 15 pics in many different locations and none were good.

dappled and spotty.   Each type is named after an animals, tree or flower that resembles the marking on the cow.   Nguni cattle play a large role in  economic aspects of South Africa, not only because of Lobola, but because their hides are a very sought after.   They are used for rugs, wall hangings, furniture, etc.   

They have pointy, delicate horns.   Each group of between 10-30 cows are "supervised" by one herder.   I put supervised in quotation marks because I use the word loosely.  The herder has one long stick with a red bandana tied on the end.   He sometimes follows the cattle, but much of the time there is no one in sight.   The cattle wander on to the highway, into gardens, into the bush etc. and pretty much call the "shots".  This morning a herd strolled on to a major road during a busy time.   Traffic was backed up, but the herder could not get the cattle to move.   He waved his flag frantically over his head, then gave up and turned his back to the angry motorists. 

OUT OF AFRICA

 Our elders rolled their Bakkie (truck), and luckily no one was hurt.   But we needed to make a quick trip to Durban in regards to the accident.   Since we were going, we took a box we wanted to ship home to Colorado.   You might be wondering what we are shipping home????  A 6 foot tall wooden giraffe!   That's right!   A giraffe.   We have fallen in love with these graceful, gorgeous, giant animals.  What will we do with this carving?   We have no idea.    And, to complicate matters, Sandy has no decorating ability whatsoever.   So don't laugh when you walk into our home and see this beauty looking out of place.   It is a reminder of this amazing country.

It was no small task to find a box to ship it in.   We visited so many stores with no luck.   Finally, when I explained to a store clerk I wanted a box almost the exact size and shape as he was, we had success.   He asked what it was for and when I said, "A giraffe", he was puzzled but knew what to look for.   He went behind the store and climbed into the "rubbish bin" (dumpster) and found a perfect box.   Elder Todd spent a long time reinforcing the box,  4 rolls of packing tape, lots of bubble wrap and completed the job.    However, getting this box into our car (Toyota) was quite the challenge.   Eventually, he took the headrests off the seat backs and laid down the front seat.  the box barely fit by pressing it against the front windshield and the rear windshield.   I sat in the back seat with the box going over my shoulder.   Elder Todd could not see out either the rear view mirror or the side mirror.   I was his "eyes" for the 2 hour trip.   But we made it safely!

ADORABLE

We were sitting right underneath them watching them eat the berries.  

While we were in Durban, we took our box to the mission home.    While we were on the sitting back patio of the mission home chatting with Sister Zachrison,  several monkeys came right up to us.    She ran inside to get bananas but did not have any, so she brought back carrots to feed them.   The monkeys followed her into the house before she could get the door closed.   That is dangerous for several reasons, but the main reason is they pee and poop on everything (and steal your food.)   After getting them out of the house, we spent 10 minutes watching the monkeys and trying, unsuccessfully, to get them to eat out of our hands. We NEVER get tired of these adorable monkeys!!

He grabbed a packet of Ketsup (like from a fast food place) from their kitchen, opened it and licked up every drop!

HARD SELL

In South Africa, you can set up a business anywhere.   Literally, you set up your shop anywhere.  This is the main street...just around the corner from our house.   Along each side of this busy 2-lane road are stretches of grass.   This man pulled his truck up on the grass and set up business.  He is advertising to get your car air conditioner recharged! He has all the equipment right there!  He not sitting in his lawn chair by the truck, because he is trying to flag down business from traffic on the road.   THE REAL CATCH HOWEVER IS, IT IS WINTER HERE!!!!!  People are wearing ski hats, sweaters and long pants.  I am sure we are the ONLY ones using our car air conditioning.   It is 80 degrees!   Air Conditioning is called Aircon in South Africa. 

We also see people selling furniture, bean bag chairs, fans, charcoal and biltong (kind of like beef jerky, only better) along the road. 

LAST TRANSFER DINNER

It seems unbelievable that we just cooked our last transfer dinner!    How can that be?  It seems like we just arrived in Richards Bay and I was trying to figure out how to turn my oven on, where to find familiar foods and how to cook when it was 105 degrees plus high humidity.    Now Richards Bay, grocery shopping, and feeding the elders seem like "home".   We also celebrated Elder Katimbo's birthday with cake and ice cream.  We had roast beef, potatoes, gravy,  carrots, homemade rolls, salad, bananas and pears.  I don't think I will ever cook again.  Our neighbor told us that:    In Africa, quality does NOT matter when it comes to food.  Only quantity matters." She said, people don't want anything fancy.....they just want A LOT of whatever you have.   Sometimes it is like that with the elders. 

 During dinner, the missionaries receive the transfer news (about 7:30 p.m.) and find out if they are leaving and where they are going.   They are so excited...and sometimes a little apprehensive.  These missionary companions spend 24 hours a day together, in every circumstance you can imagine.   They become best friends.   Some of them will see each other in the U.S. after their missions.   But the African elders know they will not see these friends after their missions.  Amidst all the goodbyes, I forgot to take any pictures!

DAY-TO-DAY
It is mostly the day-to-day opportunities that bring us joy.   The past 2 weeks we have taught investigators about the Book of Mormon and the Word of Wisdom; we have taught young women, taught priesthood, taught Primary; gone out late at night to charge a battery for a stranger, inspected the elders' apartments for cleanliness, given rides, given a Family Home Evening lesson; had a widow over to play games, and trained 2 youth leaders.  

We only have 3 1/2 weeks left on our mission. (Now we have 3 weeks left because I didn't post this blog.)  Each night and morning we plead with the Lord, to guide us to do things that are most worthwhile and to serve those He would have us serve.   It is not always easy to discern what is most important, and we need Divine guidance.   

Thank you for your love and prayers.



 

Only 3 1/2 weeks left!

June 2, 2016

Greetings!

Because so much of what I want to share does not have a "photo", I decided to write a letter instead of blog today.  

We are shocked as we look at the calendar and see that we only have 3 1/2 weeks left on our mission!   We haven't even thought about the "end" of our mission until this week, because we want to work very hard up until the last minute.   We are pleading with the Lord to open our eyes to things that we need to do or people we need to teach or assist.   Although we haven't had any "big" revelations, names have come in our minds very quietly...just a quick flash of a name---nothing more.  

Let me share one of those examples, because these are some of our favorite ways to serve.    Sihle Dlamini, 34 years old and single, attended Larry's Institute class and we were so impressed with him.   We invited him to attend our Temple Preparation Course and he participated wholeheartedly in every class.  His comments showed deep insights.     At the completion of the class, others were getting temple recommends and expressing a desire to go to the temple.    We noticed that Sihle didn't mention going to the temple.   Although we were a little puzzled, we didn't want to push anyone.   Then we became so busy, it slipped to the back of our minds.   Last week, we wondered again, why this outstanding young man had not gone on the temple trip.   Possibly he could not get time off work (he is one of the few with a full time job 6-7 days per week, although it is low paying).  Sunday night I saw him and decided that the best approach would be direct.   I expressed love and concern for him and then asked why he did not go to the temple.  (This directness is bad manners in the Zulu culture.)  He said that he was "working on something".   I said, "That is wonderful."  But I continued and asked if he was trying to be perfect, because none of us are perfect and have make many mistakes.   Or, I continued, was it something more serious.   Just as he started to speak, 2 people came into the room, so he was silent.  It was late and he needed to head for home.   As we drove home, I shared with Elder Todd what had happened.   He said, I will call him tomorrow and ask him to lunch.  So Wednesday night, he and Elder Todd went to dinner.   They had a wonderful, LONG talk and Sihle shared his problem.   Elder Todd was able to give him counsel and direction on how he can become worthy to attend the temple.   Without the Lord bringing his name to our mind, we fear he never would have gone to the temple.   He felt that you just wait years.   In the temple prep course, there is specific instruction on worthiness and repentance.   But it was a reminder, that we often hear correct teachings but we don't understand, or listen or focus.    It happens to most of us.  

Sihle told Elder Todd how much it meant to him that someone cared enough to notice him.   And that someone loved him!     We cannot tell you how much these experiences mean to us.  

Sunday, we felt like we were able to serve in many ways---and that makes it a perfect day!   We began the day by driving to Port Durnford to church.  (Although the roads were almost un-driveable in our sedan, we still made it a few minutes early....because Elder Todd makes us leave soooo early for our meetings.)   I won't go into the details, but the branch president moved 2 months ago, there is only one counselor, who has a severe speech problem because of an auto accident, and one other Melchizedek priesthood holder.   There is no Primary president or teacher so a 14 year old boy teaches them the lesson every week and then they sit alone. The district Primary President and I thought it would be wonderful if all the Primary children in the district, sang in conference, June 12.   Sister Colton, the district primary president, is the branch  primary president and so it is very hard for her to leave her branch and visit other branches.   I volunteered to teach the songs to the children in the other branches and she provided me with visual aids.   

So after Sacrament meeting, I taught 14 children 2 songs:   Stand for the Right and I Will Follow God's Plan.   They learned the words fairly well, but the tune was "off".   I brought the IPAD with the music, but they sang so loud, they drowned out the tune.   The 14 year old boy is musical and sings loudly, which is great.   But he sings another tune.   So, the kids know the words, but sing a different melody!   I needed to bring speakers for the IPAD.

After the first block in Primary, I went to teach Young Women.   They have 2 young women (one is 12 years old and one is 11 years old--she is turning 12 in July so I didn't say anything).   They also had a nonmember visiting.   I taught the Personal Progress program and gave each one her Personal Progress books.    They are so excited.    I am sad to leave these young women--I hope someone will help them apply the Personal Progress Program--it is so powerful.   Then I presented each of them with the YW torch necklace--Stand for Truth and Righteousness.  In each branch, this is a special moment.  Last, (I was overtime but felt this was important.) we decorated their bare bulletin board with a hanging banner that said, "Press Forward" (the youth theme for 2016) and a colorful poster.   The girls cut everything out, put it together and hung it up.   They were so proud of their work! 

As I was leaving, I saw a few members gathered around the baptismal font.   The font is outside, but surrounded by a high locked gate.   The font is similar to a child's wading pool and it is cemented into the ground.   But there was commotion, because someone noticed that the cement was chipped away at the base.   Someone had tried to come and steal the baptismal font!!   It is a VERY plain plastic rectangle.  

We didn't stay around, but drove to Enseleni Branch to a baptism for a 21 year old girl and her 10 year old sister.  Even though it was very simple (12 people including us and the missionaries), no frills or refreshments, the spirit was there.   The talks were basic and there were only 2 hymn books (used by the new members and their nonmember father), but the priesthood authority was there.  The font is above ground.   To get into the font, they placed a ladder with one side in the pool and the other part out side the pool.   So 2 people steadied the ladder, and one person helped the baptismal candidate up and down the steps of the ladder.     We are so grateful to see these wonderful girls come into the church.   Simpewe graduated from high school 2 years ago and is still waiting to see if she can find some financial assistance to attend the university.   She wants to major in Chemistry or Engineering.   She is very motivated despite many obstacles in her path. 

Afterwards, we drove to the Richards Bay Chapel where Elder Todd attended a 3 hour Training Meeting with the Branch Presidents and District Presidency.   The District President called 2 counselors to serve with me in the Young Women's presidency 2 months ago.    We met together and planned and prepared for our Young Women's conference this Saturday. This is our second presidency meeting and it is all new to them.  We visited and laughed and bore testimony.   It was so much fun.   But even more, it was another confirmation of the Lord's program at work.   We built each other and I was able to teach the doctrine of temple marriage.   One of my counselors has been dating a nonmember for 5 years.   She confided many things to our presidency and we searched the doctrine for answers. 

At the end of the evening, I spoke to Sihle which I already shared with you.

I have felt a little discouraged the past week because I was reminded of 2 very important teaching techniques we have been neglecting. We were reminded of these from our Zone Leaders in our zone training.   These are things we knew, but somehow we forgot.   It has been quite upsetting to me because we have prayed so fervently to be the best missionaries we could.   These 2 items would have improved our teaching, but now we are leaving. 

We have enjoyed teaching the gospel to investigators so much BUT we know that it is done best by the young missionaries.   They do it EVERY day and are more practiced.  It is the main part of their ministry.  

Being a missionary is the most wonderful experience.  We wanted to "pay back" to others the blessings of the gospel we have received, BUT we are the ones who are blessed. 

Love,

Mom and Dad

Elder and Sister Todd

Sandy and Larry

TWO NEW ADDITIONS!!!

Two beautiful granddaughters joined our family in the last 2 weeks!  We hate to miss these special occasions.   Nothing is as good as being there, but we are so grateful for SKYPE and FACE TIME.   We feel blessed to have 2 healthy babies and mothers.  The proud parents are Lynda and Ryan Todd in New York City, and Stephanie and Dave Wessler in Denver.

Can't wait to hold and snuggle Lucy and Charlotte.

Lucy Hazel Todd
8 lbs. 8 oz.

Lucy received a warm welcome from her 4 siblings.

Charlotte Ann Wessler
7 lbs. 11 oz.  

Wessler family were excited to meet their new sister!

SPECIAL MOTHER'S DAY 

Sunday was memorable.   We needed to be out the door earlier because we had someone that "needed a lift" (as they say here) to church.   This person lived quite a distance away so Elder Todd prodded me to move a little faster so we could be on time.   Also, Larry was giving the sermon at church so we needed to be early.   He gave a wonderful talk honoring women and the role of women in God's plan.   This doctrine does not mesh with Zulu culture.   Men feel like they should be catered to and not asked to do work of any kind.     Housework and caring for children is demeaning for men.   We strive to help the men understand that husbands and wives are equal partners.  Elder Todd has had very spirited conversations with the men encouraging them to say simple things like "please" and "thank you" to their wives.  

After our church meetings, we took Freddy home and went inside to "greet" his wife.   Elder Todd told me, "We cannot go inside because we need to be home in one hour."   It is almost impossible to stay less than an hour at Freddy's home.   Anything less, is considered rude.   We explained to Asha (his wife) our time schedule for the day, but she replied she had made us dinner.   Well, eating dinner takes way more than an hour.   Finally, she came up with an acceptable solution.  We stayed and visited for 45 minutes, she packed our dinner to-go, we "owe" them an extra visit this week and Larry drove like crazy to get us home on time. 

The young missionaries can only call home (or FaceTime or Skype) twice a year (on Mother's Day and Christmas.)   They were coming to our home to use our computer and IPAD to Skype their families.   We had a tight schedule to find times for elders from England, Uganda, South Africa,  California, Oregon, Washington and Utah to call to different time zones.   That morning several last minute changes had to be made, but it all worked out beautifully.    Listening to parents and siblings squeal with delight when they saw their son/brother on Skype was heartwarming.   The elders come out with huge smiles after speaking to their families.   Two years is a long time for 18-20 year olds to be away from their families. And parents certainly show faith, when they send their son half way around the world for 2 years.  

We had dinner in the crockpot and rolls, fruit, dessert and drinks on the counter.   So from 2:00-9:15 p.m. the elders ate, phoned, and ate some more. We had 2 devices going all the time for them to use.    They came and went.   We love this time to get to know the elders better and to answer any questions or concerns they have.   They bring a special spirit into our home and bless our lives.    When they all left and the kitchen was filled with dirty dishes and pans---it still felt like a wonderful day. 

I did not take one picture of these special young men.

LUCKIEST WOMAN

Sunday, I felt so grateful to be a mother!   Actually EVERY DAY,  I feel so blessed to be a woman and especially a mother!  Our children, their spouses and our grandchildren have been the joy of my life.   Each of them have been so supportive of our mission.   I have not been home for the birth of two babies (and not able to help Lynda and Stephanie), have missed Christmases, birthdays, soccer games, track meets, piano recitals, baptisms, priesthood ordinations and day to day life.    Yet, each one of them have cheered us on.    

MONDAYS 

Every Monday Elder Todd is busy ironing 6-7 white shirts. Tuesday through Sunday we are wearing our missionary attire (white shirt, tie and dress pants for Elder Todd).   Monday is our Preparation Day.    If we stay home to clean and  wash clothes, or if we go on a Safari or hike, we wear casual clothes.   However, if we go to the store or sightseeing (except for Safaris), we wear our missionary clothes.   So he needs all those white shirts EVERY week.   So this is a typical Monday.  

UNITING TOGETHER

We take every opportunity to work with other churches.   Yesterday, we received a phone call from a pastor in Nongoma (3-4 hours away) who wanted to meet with us.   She was going to be passing through our city today and we invited her to our home.   Her daughter had attended a cultural program our church put on in Durban, and she told her mother she might be interested in joining us in a project.     We spent an hour with her and her assistant pastor.   We explained what we do in the high schools, communities and with self-reliance programs.   She was very cordial and appreciative.   As she examined the programs, she repeatedly said, "This is what our country needs."  or,  "Thank you for empowering our youth." or, "This is the vision we need."  But, she was seeking money for her church.    Their church had grown, but now they wanted to expand and needed the funds.    We explained that we do not "fund" any churches, but we help in the ways I mentioned.    We appreciate good men and women in Africa who are working to teach their people about Jesus Christ.   We parted friends and she may invite us to speak to their congregation or join us in other endeavors.  

FULL CIRCLE

We continue to learn lessons...sometimes we wonder why it takes so long...or why don't we learn the first time around?????

One example from today:  You might remember, that I am the Young Women's youth leader for all 5 congregations in this area.   We have done so many different classes, conferences, sports events, cooking, service projects and spiritual instruction over the past 16 months.   We began by building friendships among the youth, then providing activities so they could have "fun" (or rather, feel the JOY that comes from living the gospel), and next teaching skills and promoting self reliance.  Food was OFTEN the center of these events.   Woven into everything was the gospel of Jesus Christ.   

However, today I was reminded of the lessons we learned in the Missionary Training Center in Provo, Utah.   Here is what happened:   This morning we drove to Ngwelesane to work with the young women on "Personal Progress".   Also included was a cooking class.   The girls had asked to learn how to make American pancakes.  Elder Todd is an expert, so I volunteered his services.   We also decided to throw in other breakfast items like French Toast.   

We began in the usual way by driving all over 2 towns, picking up girls.   But we were still able to start by 10:10 a.m. (Sixteen months ago we would not have started until noon....we are making progress!) The topic was:  The Joy of Womanhood.   Many of the girls have  low self esteem and a very negative feeling about womanhood.  After our introduction, we broke into groups to read and discuss.

We took a break and had a cooking demo by "Chef Todd" followed by the girls making breakfast.   Such fun!   Such serious cooking.   We had apricot and strawberry jam, powdered sugar, syrup and butter for toppings.   They were able to choose which one....but they layered each and every thing.   They did not want to miss out on anything.  They ate, cooked, ate and cooked some more.  We used up every egg and ingredient we brought.    

Afterwards, we finished our discussion and study of womanhood from God's point of view and from a worldly perspective. By this time a neighbor girl and joined us and the house was PACKED!   When it was time to leave, I asked what their favorite part of the day had been.   They chimed in "Everything!".  But when pressed, they said the best part was the lesson and what they learned about their potential!!    

Well, in a nutshell, "That says it all!"   They love the food, they love the friendship and fun, but what they need most is the gospel of Jesus Christ.  
Of course, we all know that!!!   But I needed to remember that. 

We have worked hard to teach skills and fill their hungry bellies, but hungry spirits need to be filled also.    During the last 4 months this has been our "refocus".  This is what we were taught 16 months ago at the Missionary Training Center.  We had not forgotten, but sometimes it was not center stage.

 WELCOME TO THE DURBAN SOUTH AFRICA MISSION!

Wednesday we met our newest missionary, Elder Chico, from Mozambique.   Being a missionary is challenging, but Elder Chico speaks Portuguese and a very little English.   He is getting used to a new country, new food and a companion that does not speak or understand one word of Portuguese!  What faith these young men have!

Elder Chico from Mozambique is on the right.  Elder Smith and Elder Matlala (who is going home...and we will miss him greatly) are introducing him to Enseleni.

FAVORITE SIGHT! 

African people are so clean!   No matter where you go, laundry is hanging outside of every home, shack or apartment.   I love the colorful clothes hanging from fences, trees, rope or wire!   Saturday is the traditional wash day, with Sunday as backup, in case of rain.   Every school uniform (all students wear uniforms) and every article of clothing except what they are wearing, is hanging out to dry.   

ZONE CONFERENCE 

This is our mission schedule so you can get a little idea of how things work.

Our mission for young and old missionaries is divided into 6 week increments.  The first 6 weeks, we (young elders and ourselves) have a zone conference in Durban which is 2 hours away.   Usually 1 or 2 other zones attend the same training with us.  So there are about 20-30 missionaries plus 3 senior couples in attendance.   The training goes from 10-6 and the senior couples provide lunch and snacks.   Our mission president and his 2 assistants (young elders) plan and present the training.   
The mission president travels all over the rest of the mission so he can train the other missionaries that are located 4-12 hours away.  So each 6 weeks every missionary receives training from our mission president.
Examples of the training might be:   How to have more effective prayers, receiving personal revelation, how to work together with your companion, the power of the Book of Mormon, developing Christlike attributes, etc.  

The second 6 weeks, the president does interviews.    He travels to every town/city where there are missionaries and he interviews each missionary one-on-one.   This usually takes him 4 weeks of travel to complete this.  

 This schedule repeats  non-stop month after month. Our mission president is only " home" 1-2 weeks every 6 weeks.   The rest of the time they are on the road.   They also visit all the congregations, speak at district conferences and issue temple recommends.   It is a grueling schedule but they never complain and they LOVE the missionaries.   

This good looking group is our zone (missionaries, us and  President and Sister Zachrison).

 SELF RELIANT

Because of the water shortage, many homes do not have any water.    This woman is walking to find the truck that will sell water to fill her drum--not a job for a weakling!

55 gallon drum

We love serving the Lord in South Africa.  We see more clearly each day how much the gospel of Jesus Christ is needed here.   

Elder and Sister Todd
Grandma and Grandpa
Larry and Sandy